adulthood is not knowing what day it is but knowing you have to work
bonnie, debbie, molly, and ethel would be such a fierce group of friends. with karen and mandy as their older and cooler friends.
Dom & Sub is a body of illustrative work in digital media that attempts to humanize practitioners of BDSM and offer a representation of kinky sex that not only refutes negative stereotypes but informs the audience that sadomasochistic play is done best between happy, healthy, and consenting adults. I portrayed the couple in the work not only engaging in S&M play but also building a “scene” together and nurturing one another after the play has concluded; these are moments often left unconsidered or completely ignored in visual representations of S&M. I believe it’s important to see how kinky scenes are crafted with care, commitment to safety and enthusiastic consent in order to limit those times when sadomasochistic play is used to abuse or dehumanize other human beings. It is my hope that my audience will learn from the illustrations that sadomasochistic play is not always dark or scary, and that fellow ‘kinksters’ can enjoy tender representations of S&M that do not ridicule or pathologize them. I’ve designed the work to engage sadomasochistic imagery, material and theory with an ethical conscience.
I was talking to this older woman, who was showing me an apt the other day, and while she was being Condescending Adult in Their Forties she was like “and then only you’ll own a home of ur own!”
"Actually, most people in my generation will never be able to have a house of their own" I said
She shook her head sadly, a little smile on her face, and replied “oh that’s just not true! ”
And I gave up. Bc there wasn’t enough time in the world to explain why she was wrong
adulthood is just an endless stream of phone calls you don’t want to make but have to